True Love
In the name of God, the Most Merciful, the Most
Compassionate. Amin. May all praise and all
responsibility be given to that One God who is limitless
grace and incomparable love. Amin. May all the
responsibilities in our life, the splendors, the highs
and the lows, may they all be given to that One God, our
Father who is goodness, love, and compassionate
beneficence. Amin.
My very precious children, jeweled lights of my
eyes, children born with me as the life within my life,
the love within my heart, all my loving children who are
the love within my love, who are mingled with my love,
who dwell within my love, who are the wisdom within my
wisdom, may God Himself protect us with His grace, bless
us, and grant us an exalted life of excellence, good
qualities, and good deeds. Amin.
My very precious children, I give you my love. My
very precious children who are the life within my life,
we have come to this world from our Father who is God.
During the period when we existed as a soul composed of
light, we knew our Father. When we were nothing other
than light, that light perceived the Light; it prayed
and bowed down in reverential obeisance. That light form
still exists within us as a mysterious secret, a
mysterious, secret light body, an atom, a ray, the soul.
It is the treasure of wisdom which can be seen in the
state of God's love. This soul, this light form is God's
mystery, and its life is God's life. Its actions are
God's actions, and its love is undiminishing, endless,
and indivisible.
When we came to this world, we brought that form
with us along with its actions, its behavior, its
qualities, and its compassion. That is our mysterious
secret. It is that love which makes us instinctively
show compassion to others, makes us aware, and prompts
us to soothe and comfort others. This quality of
compassion is just one aspect of that light form. My
precious children, we must realize that this
compassionate love is a ray of God's infinite love, and
we possess that quality of compassionate love, that
resplendent light. The act of showing compassion toward
others, that ray of light, the life which is the soul,
that grace and wisdom are within us. God is within us
and the secret story of the kingdom of God is within us.
We must understand this. My
very precious children, what do we call love? The love
we usually manifest is selfish. We might love a tree,
but for selfish reasons. We raise a cow and love it.
Why? For selfish reasons. We breed a horse, but what
kind of love do we have for it? Selfish love, because it
is our property. We keep a dog, and because it is
our dog, we love it. We may look after a garden,
grow a tree, keep a cat, or raise goldfish. No matter
what we have or nurture, our love for it is selfish. If
we have a friend, we have a motive for having that
friend. Whether it is a friend, a house, whatever it may
be, the love we manifest is selfish. No matter what we
love, if we examine that love accurately we will find a
selfish reason for it; we expect something in return.
Even when we cling to a religion, a doctrine, racial
prejudice, anything, if we examine our feelings
carefully, we will always find that there is a reason
behind those feeling--selfishness. All the different
kinds of love we offer or observe have to be understood
in this way.
Now, does this kind of love benefit us? No, it
does not. The only love that is beneficial is selfless
love. Whatever we raise or touch--cattle, goats,
donkeys, horses, dogs, cats, rats, house, property,
possessions, learnings, titles, fame, political status,
or even wisdom--whatever it is we love, if our love is
directed toward something and remains fixed on that
thing, it is a love which can be lost, which can die.
That love is not an intrinsically inner love like the
fragrance in union with a flower.
Suppose we spread gravel on a roadway, level it,
cover it with tar, and roll it perfectly flat and
smooth. In the course of time, rain and snow will fall,
trucks will drive over it, floods will overrun it, and
eventually the road will crack and potholes will appear.
The road stays perfectly level for a short while, but as
the seasons change, potholes will appear. And if the
wheel of a car falls into a pothole, the alignment may
be ruined, the tire may be damaged, the axle might
break, or something else could give way; there may even
be an accident. Similarly, selfish love is subject to
the changing seasons and tends to break down just as a
road does. My very precious children, this is exactly
how any kind of love that we foster within ourselves
with selfish motives will end; it will break down sooner
or later. Unless love is connected to God, unless it is
connected to truth, to compassion, to justice, and to
grace, it is possible for it to break down.
My very precious children, all the love
manifested by the human race is exactly like this. If we
pursue God, worship Him, ask Him for favors, for
property, money, possessions, a baby, great titles, a
kingdom, or even for heaven, if we love God with
interested motives, with selfish love, that love will
break down. It is a broken love. But God is limitless
grace and incomparable love. His love has no selfish
interests. His compassion, His actions, His conduct, His
goodness, His love, and His compassionate qualities are
shown equally to all living things. His love pervades
everything, and He lives within all lives. Knowing each
heart, He does His duty; knowing the qualities of each
life, He serves it; knowing the behavior of each life,
He protects it.
My very precious children, this love which is
God's love must take form within us. God's love must
take shape within the human race. His love must be
formed in our hearts. That state must begin to grow as a
small embryo in our hearts. Before we give our love to
anything, we must slice it open, examine it carefully,
and change it into a love that is complete, unchanging,
and offered properly without faults, shortcomings, or
deceit. Our love must correspond point by point with His
love. The love between one human being and another and
the love between man and God must be a love in unity.
Love and love must merge, grace and grace must merge,
qualities and qualities must coincide, actions and
actions must be identical. The grace here and the grace
there must unite as one, this fragrance and that
fragrance must merge. Just as the flower and its
fragrance are one, two hearts must mingle as one. That
alone can be called love. Only that kind of love has
this delightful fragrance.
Every child must attain this
state. Because man is the prince of God, when we place
our faith in God, when we do our duty to others, to the
human race, we must do it without attachment, without
selfishness, in the proper way, expecting no reward. We
must serve others with the firm belief that we are one
family, that all human beings are our brothers and
sisters, feeling the suffering of others as our own
suffering, the sadness of others as our own sadness, the
sorrow of others as our own sorrow, the illness of
others as our own illness, the pain of others as our own
pain, the hunger of others as our own hunger, the lives
of others as our own life, and the happiness of others
as our own happiness. My very precious children, love
that pours forth like this is true love.
If we were to have the same kind of love for a
man that we have for a tree, what good would that be? We
might cultivate a teak tree with great love, but what
happens when the price of teak goes up? We cut it down,
don't we? We raise a beautiful horse, but if someone
offers us a good price, we sell it. We raise a cow and
consider it to be as precious as our own life, but if
someone offers a high enough price, we sell it. We are
capable of selling anything we love selfishly to get
something in return.
We must reflect on the love we give each and
every thing. Let us look at the condition of the human
race today. If a man marries a beautiful woman or a
woman marries a handsome man, if they have a beautiful
child and do many things together lovingly, that
certainly is looked upon as love by most people. Their
two bodies joined and their two hearts merged and became
one for awhile. But what is that love? It is physical
love. It is selfish love and illusion. After a while, if
the wife should fall ill, her husband will not take care
of her. That same husband who promised so much love,
saying they had one heart even though they had two
bodies, now asks for a divorce. He does not want to look
after her when she is ill, and his wife would probably
also want a divorce in a similar situation. Is that
love? No it is not. In true love, life must be shared.
Illness, wealth, bodily suffering, happiness, joy, and
sorrow must all be shared. Whenever there is love in
which the husband and wife do not share everything
equally, that love is born of selfishness. Only when
everything is shared can it be called true love.
So, my very precious children, when you fall in
love, analyze the state of that love. Cut it open,
examine it carefully, and look for the love which is
intermingled with love, the love born of wisdom, the
love born of good qualities, the love born of good
actions, the love born of good behavior, the love
emanating from clarity. That is true love. Any other
love is merely selfish, merely the love of physical
beauty, of beautiful possessions or beautiful learning.
When we give our selfish love to these things, that
beauty will soon fade and our love will end. This love
is like our love for cows and goats. When a man gives up
one woman and takes another, or a woman gives up one man
and takes another, that love was never, never true love.
My very precious children, just as
the fragrance is inseparable from the flower, in true
love two minds are joined together as one. This love
must be brought into our conduct, our actions, our
qualities, our tranquillity, and our wisdom, so that two
can become one. Only when these qualities come together
will true love flourish. We do not need selfish love.
One life must mingle with another; one love must mingle
with another. We have to trust and live in that state of
love.
What is the point of loving God the same way we
love a dog or a cat? When you sell the dog, you will
have to sell God too. Can you transfer the love you have
for a horse to God? If so, then when you sell the horse,
you are selling God too. Is this not strange? Therefore,
we have to learn the true meaning of love and put it
into action. We have to learn what kind of love we must
offer to God, what kind of love we must have in our
lives, and what kind of love two people should have for
each other. Their love must be like the flower and its
inseparable fragrance. And what should our love for God
be like? Our love of God must be a love of surrender,
like one light surrendering to a stronger light. Love
must surrender to love, wisdom must surrender to wisdom,
grace must surrender to grace, our qualities must
surrender to God's qualities, our actions must surrender
to His actions, our duties must surrender to His duties,
our life must surrender to His life, and radiance must
surrender to radiance. This means that man must become
God, that God must surrender to God. Only the love which
surrenders is true love. This is what true love really
is.
When we speak of love, we speak as though we
really had that love for all creations. We love the
earth, we love the sky, we love the sun, the moon, fire,
our bodies, cows, cats, trees, and flowers we love
everything. What is there we don't love? But this is all
selfish love which we must transcend to learn what true
love for God is in our lives. We must experience that
unity and know what form of love should exist between a
man and a woman. We must love each other as one race,
one family. We must know that we are truly one
community. This is the love we must discover. Life is to
manifest that love in the same way that perfume emanates
from a flower.
God's love transcends all these
other so called loves. His love is His conduct, His
patience, His tolerance, His qualities, His actions, His
peacefulness, His compassion. True love is His
sabur or inner patience, His shukur or
absolute contentment, His tawwakul or surrender,
and giving all praises to God, saying,
"Al-hamdulillah! " God's love is His qualities of
sympathy, generosity, mercy, the feeling that all lives
are as precious as His own and that the hunger of all is
His own hunger. His love permeates everything. We must
have that kind of love. We must let that love take shape
within us and surrender it to Him.
My very precious children, until that love exists
within us, until that wisdom grows within us, until
God's compassion is formed within us, until His actions
grow within us, our love is a broken love. In this
state, the love we offer God is like our love for dogs
and cats. Our love of race, religion, doctrines,
philosophies, possessions, money, wealth, and color is
selfishly motivated. This love cannot be connected to
God because it is broken love, a love which falls apart
here and there.
Precious children, we have to understand what
really constitutes love in our lives, and we have to
understand the love we must have for God. That love
knows neither comparison nor equal. We must have God's
love for God and give His actions and His grace to Him.
We must have God's compassion and attribute it to Him.
We must have His conduct and attribute it to Him. We
must show His qualities to Him, reach that state, and
give Him that love. That is surrender.
Just as the fragrance and the
flower are one, the soul and His mystery mingling
together is love. The ray of our soul's light falling
into His light is love. My very precious children,
devotion to God is the surrender of our wisdom to His.
Then we can learn. Only if our qualities surrender to
His can we learn His qualities. Only if we surrender our
life to Him, can we study His life, and only if we
surrender our eyes and our intentions to Him, can we
study His eyes and His intentions.
My very precious children, we must let His love
and His actions work inside us this way. As long as we
have prejudices, colors, religions, races, wealth,
philosophies, books, and scriptures, and as long as we
say, "I am the best! Mine! My possessions, my things, my
relatives," as long as we hang on to these things, we
cannot have that love which merges with God. Our love
will be broken, like our love for dogs and cats. We may
love a dog very much, yet we lead it around on a leash.
We love a horse, yet we throw a saddle on it and ride
it. We love a mule, yet we load it with bundles and ride
it. What about our love for a cow? We take a big pail
and milk it. And what love do we have for a tree? We
carry a sack to pick its fruit. Selfish love always has
a motive, and so we offer a different kind of love to
each thing. This divided, selfish love vanishes once we
no longer need that thing. If it doesn't have what we
are looking for, our love disappears. This is a love
that breaks and sees separations. Yet we keep saying
there is love in our life, love of this and love of
that. What kind of love are we talking about?
My very precious children, we must
split open the love we have for each thing in our life
and examine what is inside. We must open each tree,
fruit, flower, our lives, our sexual pleasures, gold,
our wealth, our houses, everything we look at with our
eyes and our minds. If we dissect them all and look
inside, we will eventually realize that there is only
one kind of love, and that it is not something we see
externally. When we truly perceive that wonder we will
exclaim, "My God!" That love is 'my God', that wonder.
That love which is at the core of everything we see is
God. As we dissect everything what we ultimately see is
'my God'. This is love. Whatever it may be that we want
to study or examine, if we cut it open, what we
ultimately experience is the fragrance and the light
which is 'my God'.
When we split open everything seen in life,
finally we recognize that one thing which permeates all
lives--God who appears as a ray, as the point at the
center of everything. That point is love. And when we
perceive that love present within all lives, we have to
love that love. We exclaim, "Oh, my God, this is Your
creation, how wonderful! This is Your food, how
wonderful!" When we dissect anything, we see only His
wonder inside. When we look at love, we see only His
love; when we examine wisdom, we see only His wisdom;
when we study beauty, we see His beauty; when we analyze
compassion, we see His compassion; when we observe any
actions, we see His actions; when we see a miracle, we
see Him as the miracle; when we perceive radiance, it is
His radiance.
The love we should have is the love which looks
at everything through Him. We must discover that love
inside each and every thing we see. If we can find this
and make it our own, then everyone will be a brother or
sister born with us. This is the only kind of love in
which God is present, the only love which is lasting.
This is grace, this is wisdom and light. This love is
the shining beauty of our face, the beauty of our heart,
our wealth, our life. This is what makes our soul
beautiful. This is what makes the house of our life
beautiful. My very precious children, this beauty is
love. May we each reflect on that love, may we open our
hearts, look inside with understanding, and see that
love. We must open our qalbs, our innermost
hearts, and look within. We must dissect everything we
understand, we must investigate everything we eat, we
must examine our sleep, we must inspect the inside of
everything we look at. Then we will see God's wonders
and miracles. Then we will see this love which lives in
all lives, which showers compassion on all lives, and we
will say, "My God, how wonderful!"
My very precious children, each
child must understand this, take this love into his
heart, and use it in his life. We must all imbibe these
qualities and these actions and put them to use in our
lives. We must imbibe that duty and reveal it in our
actions. We must draw that grace and that treasure
within us. This love is true love, the love born of
faith and trust, the love born of brotherly unity, the
love that comes from being one family, the love that
comes from prayer, the love that comes from merging with
God, the love which has no limit. This love will never
break or fail. It will never diminish or be destroyed no
matter what storms or gales or destruction befall us.
This unselfish, true love will never change or decrease.
My very precious children, we must dissect every
thought we think, every wise thing we learn, every
realization we receive, all the feelings we become aware
of, all the clarity we experience, all the prayers we
pray, all the scenes we look at, all the dreams we dream
and our conduct by day and by night. We must dissect all
this, look at it, and understand. Then from all this, we
must extract love, truth, justice, integrity, honesty,
and the laws of righteousness. We must discover these
truths within that love and conduct our lives
accordingly.
My very precious children, my children born with
me, you must find the state of love which never
perishes, which is God's love and His actions. My very
precious children, you must realize this love in your
faith, in your certitude, in your determination, in your
wisdom, and in your clarity. Realize it as the clarity
within clarity, as the wisdom within wisdom, as the
divine wisdom within divine wisdom, as the grace within
grace, as God within God. The love which mingles with
God's love is true love, the actions are acts of love.
My very precious children, with what must we
mingle, in what must we lose ourselves and to what must
we connect ourselves? We must develop the love which
mingles with God. My very precious children, may we
develop that kind of love which will merge with Him. But
how do we realize this love and faith, how do we act
with God's actions and behavior, how do we perform our
duty, how should we pray and worship?
If we want some light, though we
may have oil and a wick, we still need a flame to light
it. Unless we have a lighted match, the oil will remain
oil and the wick will remain a wick. Only after we apply
the match will the oil, the wick, and the flame become
radiant light. My very precious children, our faith must
be united with our wisdom. Only when they are one and
God's light ignites them will we have light. My very
precious children, we must have the oil called faith and
the wick called wisdom, and we must bring God's light to
ignite this wick. This is the light which will dispel
the darkness and reveal His grace. May we reflect on
this.
If each of you will open your heart, your
actions, your wisdom, and your conduct and look within,
you will see that every face is your face, every nerve
is your nerve, each drop of blood is your blood, every
sickness is your sickness, all hunger is your hunger,
all poverty is your poverty, all sorrow is your sorrow,
all lives are your life. You will experience all this in
your nerves, in your body and in what you see. When that
state develops inside you, that is God's love. That is
God's true love because all suffering is His suffering,
all sorrow is His sorrow, all hunger is His, all poverty
is His, and all grief is His. Every torment is inside
Him. This is how God does His duty. Therefore, if you
develop that love, you will do your duty in the same
way. If that love develops you will not hurt any other
living thing, you will not cause pain, you will not
reject any life, and you will not torture any other
life, because if you hurt anyone it will hurt you.
My very precious children, look at a tree. It may
have a thousand branches and a million leaves and
flowers. If you cut any one of those flowers, leaves, or
branches, the tree feels the pain, doesn't it? The
leaves droop immediately, don't they? They wilt
immediately because of the pain. See how the leaves wilt
in the sun. If the leaves wither, the tree withers. If a
branch falls, the tree feels the pain, isn't that so? A
branch cannot fall without the tree being aware of it.
The leaves don't wither or wilt without the tree being
aware of it, because the tree holds on to them with a
gluey substance. My very precious children, even though
a tree has millions and millions of leaves and flowers,
it feels the pain caused to each one by the rain, sun,
and snow. In the same way, my precious children, when
you realize who you are, when you develop those
qualities yourself, all mankind will be like leaves
glued to your body, all lives will be like your bark or
covering, all suffering will be yours. The blood of
others, the illness of others, the hunger of others will
all be linked to you. Once you have God's love, God's
qualities, and God's actions, everyone is connected to
you, and therefore you will feel the suffering no matter
whose it is. When you develop that fullness you will
feel all the suffering there is.
If a good man can be like a tree,
he will be a tree in the world of the soul, in this
world and in the next. He will experience the suffering
of the whole world, because it will all flow into him.
All the illness, all the grief, all the hunger will be
experienced by him. He will feel everything felt by
every nerve, every tissue, and every muscle of everyone
in the world. God sent every prophet in that state. He
sent every prophet to assume the suffering of others, to
relieve the suffering and illness of the world, to
accept the karma of the world, to preach wisely, to make
grace complete, and to dispel the darkness.
And so, my very precious children, when we reach
that state, we will experience all the pain, the
suffering, and the illness that exist. In that state
everyone will be a brother or a sister, and we will feel
every illness inside ourselves. My very precious
children, you must realize what God's love is, what
man's love is, what the meaning of love is, what the
meaning of devotion is, what wisdom is, what the love we
have for God is, and what is the love we are now
experiencing. We must understand the differences between
them. If we can identify and discover true love we will
become representatives of God and live as the lights of
God, as light intermingled with God. When that time
comes, we will feel all the sorrows of the world within
us.
My very precious children, each child, please
think about this. We must realize our love, God's love,
love of all people, brotherly love, love of justice,
love of truth, love of honesty this is what we must be
aware of. May we reflect on this, my very precious
children, jeweled lights of my eyes, may each child
reflect on this, understand what wisdom is, and acquire
that love. Conduct yourself as God conducts Himself.
Show God's compassion to everyone. Have God's love for
everyone. May we bring that love into practice.
Amin. Amin.
My love to all my children, my love to all my
precious children. Please forgive me if there is
anything wrong in what I have said. I give you my love.
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2003, Bawa Muhaiyaddeen Fellowship |
"Unless love is
connected
to God,
Unless it is connected
to
truth, to compassion, to
justice,
and to grace,
It is possible for it to
break
down."
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